Whenever one faces failure in life, the most common words heard are “Have Faith/Hope, everything will turn up fine.” I won’t lie but even I said the same words to others and even tried to apply it to myself.
Throughout our life we see many different personalities – helpful, trustworthy, good, neutral, bad, cheaters, treacherous (mostly on the negative side). And go through many difficult situations.
Every time we face failure or we are let down, out first instinct is tell ourselves to have faith and that life is just. And that life will give us a lot of other opportunities. But at the end of the day we all are human. All of us have a limit to how much we can take.
So what happens next? Most of us lose faith, face nervous breakdown and go in depression. Some continue to live in the past and dream about the things that could have changed had things gone differently. Some of us continue along the same path and hope for the best to happen. But few people change in a different way. They become impervious to everything around them. They are no longer affected by the failures and neither are they overjoyed by the success. They create a shell around themselves and stay in it.
So under which group you guys fall under?
In today’s world, most of the frustrations which we face are because of not meeting the expectations which we have set in our mind. We expect too much from other people and from the life in general and sometimes even set unrealistic expectations.
We expect a lot from different people, like we expect our colleagues and manager to give fair treatment at work; we expect help from family and friends; we expect to be loved; expect people to like us; expect people to be honest to us; and the list goes on and on.
Grow up guys, be realistic and realize that the world is not a fair place. Human beings are by nature selfish. Thinking that most of the people will meet up your expectations is similar to you thinking that a Lion will not eat you since you are a vegetarian. Most of the people will never sacrifice their desires and comfort for others. In fact even I confess that for most of the people I know, I will not sacrifice my comforts and desires.
And many times the things we do for others have an underlying selfish reason, no matter how noble the deed may be. Even when people are in love, each one does that for a certain selfish reason which he or she might not want to admit initially ( I know many people might not agree to it ).
From my experiences, I have taught myself never to expect anything from others. After this, if someone does something for you, then nothing can compare the happiness you get from it. And if no one does anything, it won’t hurt that much.
There are many other benefits of not expecting too much from others. You get to learn more about others, know their strengths and follies and this helps you appreciate them as they really are. Remember everyone has his or her own burden to bear, and yours is definitely not their priority.